"Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved." -Helen Keller
I've received a few emails inquiring about the complaint a former client of mine from The Netherlands posted online in 2013, and wanted to say a few words about the experience here.
I met "K" in 2012 through a mutual friend in New York City. She quickly became a client, and we are still friends to this day. K was having difficulties in her marriage when she hired me for Talk Counsel and this was the main focus of many of our sessions together at that time.
At K's request, I agreed to have a conversation with her (now former) husband, "W", which lead to him becoming a client for a short time as well.
W and I did three or four sessions together (total), which he was satisfied with at the time. He sent me heartfelt letters of gratitude and even a gift of art through post mail international. I had no reason to think he was unhappy with my services in any way.
But shortly after this time, when K asked him for a divorce, W became very angry and then directed this anger at me, behaving in ways that made me feel very unsafe and uncomfortable. I told him I would not be able to work with him anymore, and ended all personal and professional communication.
A few days later, the "may be harmful" complaint appeared online. It saddened me, but also taught me a few valuable lessons I needed to learn to advance in my chosen profession, and grow stronger as a woman and single mom.
I do not harbor any ill feelings towards W, and do understand how the pain and confusion he was experiencing at the time distorted his view of me and the work that I do. I hope he is at peace in his heart now, and that this commentary helps put the matter into a broader perspective for all those involved.